A Sure Way to Keep Your Spouse From Sleeping With You- Be Rude
In the book The Marriage Turnaround I dedicate an entire chapter about being rude in marriage. I spend an entire chapter talking about what rudeness will do to a relationship. In our culture, some people will often treat their pets better than people they love.
Among some christians there seems to be a sense of entitlement: "It dont matter how I treat you, we are married" or "we both love one another and committed so we can let our gaurd down and be real" (rude). For many years I bought into this entitlement mind set and said things to my wife that I wouldnt think about saying to somebody I worked with. It hurt her deeply and took me a long time to repair our marriage.
The fact is rudeness and crudeness will kill intimacy quicker than anything. No body wants to be affectionate or go to bed with somebody that is habitually rude, including our spouse. Sure we all get stressed out at times and get a little edgy and sharp, but some folks seem to make a career of it. Sticks and stones are not the only things that hurt spouses, rude words and actions do too.
When Jesus gave the command "Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted forgiving one another..." he wasnt just talking to Rabbi Swartz in South Jerusalem, A.D. 30. The command applies to each of us as spouses.
Take this little quiz. If you tend to lean more toward the right side of the list, you better do a little attitude and
Take a moment to consider your actions...
• Are you respectful, or are you rude?
• Are you polite, or are you inappropriate?
• Are you mannerly, or are you crude?
• Are you patient, or are you demanding?
• Are you courteous, or are you selfish?
Taken from:
http://www.growthtrac.com/redirect-0842362037.htm
Excerpted from 20 Rules and Tools for a Great Marriage
by Dr. Steve Stephens, Copyright © 2003 by Steve Stephens.
Used by Permission, Published by Tyndale House Publishers.
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Growthtrac — Life-Changing Resources for Your Marriage
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Among some christians there seems to be a sense of entitlement: "It dont matter how I treat you, we are married" or "we both love one another and committed so we can let our gaurd down and be real" (rude). For many years I bought into this entitlement mind set and said things to my wife that I wouldnt think about saying to somebody I worked with. It hurt her deeply and took me a long time to repair our marriage.
The fact is rudeness and crudeness will kill intimacy quicker than anything. No body wants to be affectionate or go to bed with somebody that is habitually rude, including our spouse. Sure we all get stressed out at times and get a little edgy and sharp, but some folks seem to make a career of it. Sticks and stones are not the only things that hurt spouses, rude words and actions do too.
When Jesus gave the command "Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted forgiving one another..." he wasnt just talking to Rabbi Swartz in South Jerusalem, A.D. 30. The command applies to each of us as spouses.
Take this little quiz. If you tend to lean more toward the right side of the list, you better do a little attitude and
Take a moment to consider your actions...
• Are you respectful, or are you rude?
• Are you polite, or are you inappropriate?
• Are you mannerly, or are you crude?
• Are you patient, or are you demanding?
• Are you courteous, or are you selfish?
Taken from:
http://www.growthtrac.com/redirect-0842362037.htm
Excerpted from 20 Rules and Tools for a Great Marriage
by Dr. Steve Stephens, Copyright © 2003 by Steve Stephens.
Used by Permission, Published by Tyndale House Publishers.
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Growthtrac — Life-Changing Resources for Your Marriage
Copyright (c) Growthtrac 2003-2010. All rights reserved.
http://www.growthtrac
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