My husband has Borderline Personality Disorder

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Permalink Reply by Mitch Temple on April 20, 2010 at 10:33pm

Jennifer, thanks for reading the book. Seeing your spouse through God's eyes is challenging at best, especially when mental illness is involved. Mental illness is exactly that, an illness. It distorts the real person and they become someone we never expected. Our expectations and hopes are often shattered.

Dealing with mental illness in a marriage is an extremely complex issue. If you are not already, I encourage you personally to work with a therapist who is experienced in helping spouses deal with this issue. Borderline Personality Disorder is extremely complex in and of itself. Part of the challenge of helping a spouse with this illness is understanding the illness. As I say in the book, understanding can lead to acceptance and acceptance to healing. In this case, that can also be true. The more you understand, the more you are better equiped to navigate the mood swings, anger and turbulence associated with borderline issues.

I can also recommend 3 resources:
1. A secular book titled: Stop Walking on Egg Shells- Living with someone who has BLPD. http://www.bpdcentral.com/bks/swoe.php
2. Meier Clinics out of Dallas Tx. http://www.meierclinics.com/?gclid=CPSh3p_slqECFUKU7QodQjJp4w
(offers treatment and support for patients and families)
3. Focus on the Family Counseling Referal Network- offers free referals to a Christian therapist based on your need in your particular area of the country (www.focusonthefamily.com or call 1800AFAMILY).

I hope these suggestions are helpful. I will be praying for you as I have experienced this illness in my family as I grew up. I saw the effect firsthand. The good news, is that it can be treated and spouses can learn to deal with the challenges. God bless you in this journey of healing and discovery.

Mitch

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